I recently listened to the recently released Matt Forney After Hours – Down on Your Bended Knee.

It is about Leopold von Sacher-Masoch, the writer of the novel “Venus in Furs” which details the sexual perversion that later went on to become “masochism”.

If you are a man or a boy – particularly someone who is a product of a single-parent household – you need to listen to this podcast.  It is vitally important to understand this dysfunction in the relationship between men and women.

A couple days after listening to this podcast, I was given a horrific realization that this model of relationship is the only path which single mothers drive their sons towards.  Without the example of the negotiations between husband and wife to follow, sons see supplicating to women as the only way in which to please women.  A great fallacy which is often repeated writ large in society – obey the will of women at all costs.

Women on the whole do not respect men who give them everything they want.  Just look at my previous entry on The sad tale of Alexander Pettersson.

Society is about creating an entire under-class of male individuals (these aren’t men) who are masochists. All the while, women and the men of power whip you, stand on your neck and laugh at you for falling for the game they made you play.

When the novel is read properly, this book was never about lionizing this fetish, it was a warning against it.  Severin, the main protagonist in the novel “Venus in Furs”, in all respects becomes a Sadist after becoming disgusted in the way he used to supplicate to the will of women.

The time-delay fuse on this podcast’s reaction in me was an eye-opener.  As the realization above hit me I got really, really angry.  Mostly because I could see myself as Severin, someone who used to toady to try to get affection from women.  This was a strange form of anger.  Not a little angry, but to a level that could justify murder.  Was this realization how Serial Killers justify their killings?

C.S Lewis rightly said that “Satan always sends errors in pairs”. Where Masochism is bad, some men compensate by becoming Sadists in response.   I recognized that I could not trust this anger within me.  It was never “me” to being with.

I will take on what I have learned from this.  Understand that this is the world made by Single Mother Families – a world divided by the polarization caused by this lack of positive masculinity.

Value yourselves guys, above what society and women say you are worth.