Real Life Jef

Step 1 - Accepting the reality of your self.

The hardest thing for me is to have a dream. So many times I have wanted something in my life. I've tried to strive for my dreams, but I've either given up part way through and hit roadblocks that have seemed too unsurmountable, or I've had my dreams turn horribly wrong.

Over these many years, I've slowly become more accepting of my lot, but also, more accepting of myself. Since my employment difficulties back in 2002-2003, this has been a time of reflection and also of seclusion. I deliberately hid myself. Slipped into a routine that allows me to be easily distracted from really chasing a future that is really mine.

I feel like a shadow of the man I used to be. I've kept myself away from friends and family I hold so dear because I have chased a mirage, an illusion. I spent too much of my time chasing something that doesn't exist. I could be angry at the source of this illusion, but I can't, because I let myself do this. I thought it could fill the empty spaces of my heart and soul, but realize now that it has made me feel even more heartbroken and soul-less. It's just a coping tool for a reality I have created.

I realize the pain I am in. I realize the illusions in my life. I realize my need and desire to change